Why "I'm Fine" Is NEVER A Good Response

Why do those two words have such a hidden agenda? 

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I mean really! I was at a point in my life that I used them so much, I had to switch the punchline over to, "I got this!".

AKA... I NEVER had it and I was NEVER fine.

"You're dating a sociopath" ... "Don't worry, I got this!"
"College deadline is approaching, if you don't apply anywhere you're going to go to community college!" ... "It's fine, I got this!"
"Marissa! You're under 100 pounds, you're going to be hospitalized!" ... "I got this, don't worry."

Nope. Never actually got a handle on any of those situations. Turns out if my parents weren't awesome as they are, I would have probably been killed my sociopathic boyfriend, died from my eating disorder, and wouldn't have even made it to see community college.

Luckily, my parents are awesome and I prevailed through all of those possible outcomes (thanks mom and dad). But what happens when, "I'm fine" is ignored or taken as the truth?

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Let's take a look at UrbanDictionary.com for an accurate representation of what "I'm fine" means, shall we?

I'm fine, is a silent cry for help.

Whether you're the one saying it or the one hearing it - you need to recognize those words and look deeper into the situation. 

Specifically if you are on the receiving end of the conversation, be sure to open up before asking more questions. Sharing an experience of a similar situation that you went through can sometimes crack the door open, allowing the other person to share more information.

Not all problems can be fixed through having a conversation, but a conversation is most certainly the first step to solving a problem!

Don't know where to start when it comes to the conversation?
 

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Marissa Pane

New York