Change Your Outlook On Life By Asking Yourself These 4 Questions

Change your outlook on life when you ask yourself these four questions.

How many times have you not done something because you were afraid of making a mistake, even though there wouldn’t be a punishment of any kind?

If the world ended today, what would you regret?

Is there something in your life you can’t let go of but know you really need to?

Are you living the life you truly want to live?


A lot has happened in my life during the past few weeks. There has been a lot of pain, but also a lot of truth has come to surface.

During this time, the previously stated questions have floated in and out of my mind on what seemed like a never-ending cycle. The cycle is still continuing.

I'm about to answer these questions publicly with you and I am asking you to please take a few minutes out of your day to answer them too.


Question One: How many times have I not done something because I was afraid of failing? Including when I know, there would be no punishment for failure?

OYE, I feel like there are too many occurrences to count!

This one I partially blame on my anxiety but that is still no excuse. If we can reason with ourselves and come to terms with the fact that there are zero consequences of failure except knowing we failed this time around, then we have to at least put forth some effort and TRY.

Yoda may have influenced the saying “Do. Or do not. There is no try.” but luckily for us, that is only relevant in a galaxy far far away.

Try because you can succeed or try because if you let the moment pass by you may walk away with regret. Whatever your motivation - just freaking try.


Question Two: If the world ended today, what would I regret?

I have asked myself this constantly, as a subtle reminder to just shut up and do it.

If I am reasoning within my own head for more than an hour about whether or not I should do something or say something, I will always just do it.

There have been too many instances where a moment has come and gone while I sat back thinking about what I should do - as opposed to acting on my gut instinct and actually doing what I wanted to do.

To answer the question of what I would actually regret - it would be not spending enough time with the people that I love, showing them how much they truly mean to me and how much happiness and positivity they have brought into my life.

The only way someone will know how you feel is if you tell them.

I’m constantly plagued over the perfect timing or if whether or not the moment is appropriate. Fuck it. Get it off your chest. Tell someone that you love them. Tell them that you hate them. Just get it out into the universe because the world inside your head is filled with useless clutter clouding your judgement and negatively impacting your life.


Question Three: Is there something in my life that I know I need to purge myself from but can’t?

Normally the first few things that would come to my mind are toxic relationships and unfulfilling jobs. However, I am finally lucky enough to be at a point where neither of those two situations are accurate in my own life.

What I need to purge is something that is hidden layers deep inside of me, my past.

I need to forget about the person I used to be and focus on the person I am becoming, better yet, the person I am right now.

We all hold secrets, lies and unforgivable mistakes within ourselves. What I need to do is separate those moments from my existence. I am prone to blocking out the dark with humor and lying to myself to forget the truth.

The truth is - everything happened. What’s happening now - I’m letting it go.

It’s in my past and I have no control over past events. Space in my mind, currently at capacity, will not be erased and forgotten but instead, it will be neatly tucked away inside an archive of instances to never repeat.

The final and ultimate question…

Question Four: Am I living the life I want to be living?

This isn’t a question of life or death - It is a question of reflection.

If my happiness did not exist, what could I do to alter my situation, fulfilling happiness?

I am happy with the life I'm living. Yes, there may be things I wish I could change, but when I step back for a moment, I can see there isn’t anything to really complain about.

Please take those four crucial questions and apply them to your own life. I would love to know how you answer them + if they help to change your outlook on life too.

Marissa Pane

New York